Facing the Real World

By Dave Vergara, Career Architect
2018-06-01 17:00:00 | 429 views

I’m sure that everyone has their own expectation of what life would be like after college. Orientations in school, conversations with people employed, and other grown-ups would talk about what the “the real world” is like. However, even with all of this, I could never fully grasp what it would be like. I built a level of expectations for a lot of things. My dream job, my work desk, my office, and so on and so forth. I was pumped to finally graduate. I’ve conditioned myself that this will all happen in a spectacular fashion. To leave the academic life and venture outside to the real world they talk about seemed so grand. But, it’s not as great as how I thought it would be.

When I landed a job at Asia Select (ASI), things were not as what I have expected. I didn’t know what I was doing, I felt confused, uncomfortable, uneasy, added with a mix of anxiety to top it all off. I was thrown into the world not knowing what I was supposed to be doing when I expected to know everything and figure things out all on my own. I knew it wasn’t going to be easy, that’s a given, however, no one told me that I was going to feel lost and alone. No one told me that I’d feel frustrated or upset; that it won’t be rainbows and butterflies all the time. That there would be hard days and even harder days ahead. With all of this in mind, some might ask, why keep at it?

The reason why I kept at it was that I was fortunate enough to have met the great people at ASI. I was placed in a group where over-achievers strived to reach their goals. When they set a target, they would do whatever it takes to hit it. I have to admit this pressured me from the start. Rather than let these great people intimidate me, I chose to be inspired by them. I pushed myself to focus on where I needed to grow and keep working on it.

What made this learning experience even more fruitful was that these inspirational people did not leave me be. They would check-up on me, advise me, and guide me. This made me realize that I was not alone. While I knew that they had their own battles to win, they still made an effort to reach out to me. Before graduating, I thought I wouldn’t meet kind people who are concerned with my well-being in this dog-eat-dog world. I was wrong, ASI is filled with them.

Yes, the starting line was difficult, but I pushed through. Call it luck that I met these people, but remember that I am grateful that they motivated me and pushed me to become better.

The real world has its ups and downs, but I that’s what makes it beautiful. Everyone starts off feeling heavy, but this will pass. In life, finding a place I difficult; I’m thankful I found mine. I trusted the process and slowly saw progress. It may not be visible from the start, but I kept at it. As what my boss told me “Be kind and always grow, discipline yourself to be the better version of you.” Keep pushing forward, stay humble, and you’ll make it. 


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